Husband Believes His Wife Is Being Unreasonable For Snapping At His Untrained Dog For Using Her Clean Clothes To Nest On
Being single is better than being in a relationship with someone who clearly does not respect you. It's sad how a person can still feel lonely despite living with the person they vowed to spend the rest of their life with.
The expectation is to be each other's closest confidante. You're supposed to be each other's safe space and biggest supporter.
Every decision that you make from the moment that you start living together is understood to have an effect on the other. You can't just make a unilateral decision that will change your life and expect your SO to be fine with it.
When they do complain about that choice, you also shouldn't call them unbearable for not taking it in stride. Unfortunately, that's exactly what this Redditor said to his wife when she got frustrated with the dog he adopted.
OP got Lola, a corgi, about a year ago and his wife made it clear the dog will be 100% his responsibility. She herself has a cat who has been with them for four years.
The problem is OP's wife has not warmed up to the corgi at all. She believes she has sensory issues but has never been to a professional to get it officially diagnosed.
She doesn't like loud noises and being looked at which became a household problem once Lola moved in. She is a clingy dog who loves affection and whines when she doesn't get enough attention.
OP has also neglected to train out her bad behaviors which include begging for food while the humans eat. She sniffs around while they're eating and stares at them, mostly at OP's wife, hoping to get some scraps.
Lola also loves to lay on their clothes that smell like them before she goes to her crate to sleep
u/Efficient_Laugh1543OP noticed that his wife snaps at the dog and at him whenever these bad behaviors happen
u/Efficient_Laugh1543She tells and sometimes snaps at Lola to leave the room whenever she starts to beg for food
u/Efficient_Laugh1543She also immediately grabs the clothes Lola is laying on because she is sick and tired of having dog hair on all of her clothes
One night while they were watching a movie, Lola smelled food in the air and went out of her kennel. She stared at OP's wife while she was eating.
His wife asked him to speak to the dog because he gets annoyed when she reprimands Lola. OP told her to just ignore the begging and pretend Lola isn't there.
His wife snapped and said she doesn't enjoy being stared at while she's eating. He said she was being unbearable which prompted her to leave— she hasn't been home since.
u/Efficient_Laugh1543Guess why OP's wife hasn't been to a therapist yet
jammy913He actively discouraged her because he wanted to prioritize saving for a house
Efficient_Laugh1543
Their marriage is about to implode and OP is more worried about being on the right
BlueOctopotato
He admitted that the dog snatching clean clothes off of the hooks doesn't bother him as much because Lola only does that to his wife's clothes. Awesome.
Efficient_Laugh1543
OP thinks it's his wife who has a problem so he didn't bother to train his dog not to lay on people's clothes
BlueOctopotato, Efficient_Laugh1543
It does sound like OP's wife never wanted a dog in the first place
sunfloweries
This reply confirmed that and his wife has also been training Lola herself out of the bad behaviors she finds annoying because OP refuses to acknowledge them
Efficient_Laugh1543
The biggest problem is Lola's refusal to be separated from them. They trip on her a lot which OP finds funny; his wife? Not so much.
Efficient_Laugh1543, metalmorian
OP can easily train the dog not to beg for food while they eat but he refuses to do it simply because he doesn't think it's a real problem
AgreeableChemistry79
He has also passed the baton to his wife because Lola listens to her more since she is more strict
Efficient_Laugh1543
The story makes it apparent that OP doesn't really like his wife with how he easily dismisses her concerns and resents how she has them in the first place
galafael5814
If the clothing is on the floor and the dog lays on it then that's on you but if they are on the hooks and the dog still takes them? That's a pretty big issue to brush off.
Western_Compote_4461
They both need therapy from the looks of it
Everythingbutmyears
With every choice and dismissal he makes, OP is telling his wife where his priorities lie
Swirlyflurry
The first real problem is OP's casual approach to his wife's mental health. She may or may not have sensory issues but his refusal to take her to a professional is a definite a**hole move.
When she's bothered by the dog she never wanted, his reaction is to call her unbearable. OP needs to look into himself and reflect on where his dislike for his wife is coming from.
