Redditor Wants To Allow Her BF To Move In Only If He Gets Rid Of His Dog, Wonders How That Will Work Out
Pets can be a significant obstacle when it comes to people moving in together. Although pets can bring companionship and joy to a household, some potential issues should be taken into consideration before couples decide to move in together with a pet.
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And sometimes, one partner doesn't have anything against the pet itself, but the lack of care and training the other partner is providing to their pet. And we have such a story today.
OP has been dating her boyfriend for about six months. He has been incredibly supportive, helping OP out in various ways, and she cares for him deeply.
Recently, he told her that he needed to find a place to stay in between his current home and his next residence. OP, who lives in a studio, offered for him to stay with her if he contributed to rent, electricity, and internet, which he agreed to.
The issue is his dog. OP loves dogs, having a pitbull of her own that resides with her parents, but his dog is wild.
She urinates and defecates in the house, jumps on the furniture, and steals food from tables and from people's hands. She sheds a lot and whines non-stop when someone doesn't give her attention.
OP does not want her in her studio, as she will shed and chew up things. She also tried to explain this to her boyfriend, but all he said was, "I can't watch my dog all the time, what do you expect?".
OP is unsure whether it would be an a-hole move to allow him to stay with her but not his dog. read the full story:
OP asks:
OP has been dating her boyfriend for about six months. He has been incredibly supportive, helping OP out in various ways, and she cares for him deeply.
Recently, he told her that he needed to find a place to stay in between his current home and his next residence. OP, who lives in a studio, offered for him to stay with her if he contributed to rent, electricity, and internet, which he agreed to.
OP does not want her in her studio, as she will shed and chew up things
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:
This Redditor is confused
OP replied:
OP is hoping she can make her BF change
Strong motivation
This is the best advice ever - "Stop dating people you want to change and go after people that you already like"
The dog isn't even house trained.
To be honest, the BF is not house trained either.
Not going to change
What you see is what you get...
It is important to clarify some things about pets before moving in together. It is important to talk about which pets if any, will be living in the home.
It is also important to discuss how the pets will be cared for and how costs associated with pet care will be shared. It may be beneficial to discuss any allergies one of the partners may have to pets and how this will be addressed.
Additionally, discussing plans for the pets is important if one partner needs to leave home for any reason. OP is young and pretty naive to believe her BF will give up the dog.
What do you think?