Cat Owner Finds Out Her Dad Is Trying To Rehome Her Cat Without Her Knowledge While She Was Away To Visit Her Mom
Some family betrayals hit harder than others, and this one involves a cat named Raven. While visiting her mom, a young woman learned that her dad was quietly trying to rehome her childhood pet without telling her first.
OP's parents are divorced, and her dad had already been acting strangely before she left. He asked for pictures of Raven, dodged her questions, then admitted he wanted to give the cat away to a neighbor. OP was devastated, especially after realizing this was not the first time he had tried to get rid of Raven behind her back.
Now her mom and brothers are furious too, and the whole mess has turned into a family fight she never asked for. Read on.
He begrudgingly deleted a few parts of the post where he claimed Raven was his ex-wife's cat that she refused to take when they divorced

He also tried to bribe OP with a gecko before she left for her mom's house, and OP says this is not the first time her dad tried to rehome Raven without her permission

OP's mom and brothers are just as mad as she is. Her mom said that she is at least not the kind of parent who breaks her children's hearts by giving away their only childhood pet. Should we even debate who's the a**hole here?

The situation is messy, and Raven is right in the middle of it.
The father's attempts to rehome the cat without the owner's knowledge reflect underlying family dynamics and potential conflict.
I have no authority over OP, but I, too, give her permission to tell her dad how sh*tty he really is

If the story is true, OP's dad is an extremely vengeful person who is using OP and her cat like pawns to get back at his ex

Like the comments above stated, it was his way of letting OP's mom know he was giving their old cat away and hurting her in the process

The comments are not giving him much grace.
This sounds like the dad who put his daughter’s cat up for adoption while she was in a hospital.
The emotional stakes in this situation are significant, as the bond between the cat owner and her pet illustrates the profound attachments people can form with their animals. In this case, the cat serves not just as a pet but as a source of stability and affection, especially during a time when the owner is away visiting her mother. The revelation that her father is attempting to rehome the cat without her knowledge introduces a level of distress that resonates deeply with anyone who has experienced the loss or threat of loss of a beloved companion.
This scenario underscores the vital importance of open communication within families. Had the father approached the situation candidly, it might have alleviated misunderstandings and fostered a more supportive atmosphere, where feelings and motivations could be shared rather than hidden. The potential for conflict often lies in unspoken intentions, making transparent dialogue crucial in maintaining trust and understanding in familial relationships.
Knowing that OP will have to continue living with her dad after what he tried to do with Raven leaves a bad taste in my mouth

OP and her mom can try looking into free legal assistance to see if her mom can gain custody of her

OP's dad is not above "accidentally" losing the cat, given that this is not the first time he tried to give Raven away

That is exactly why OP is so worried about leaving Raven alone with him.
To address the tensions surrounding the cat's potential rehoming, family members should prioritize healthy communication strategies. The cat owner might benefit from expressing their feelings about the situation directly, using 'I' statements to explain why the cat is important to them.
Additionally, exploring family therapy as a means of working through underlying family dynamics may provide valuable insights and facilitate healthier interactions moving forward.
OP's dad is an awful human being

At least OP has one good parent she can rely on. Her mom doesn't seem to be the type of parent to give away their child's pet just to hurt her ex-husband.

What kind of parent uses their child's pet as a pawn in their sick, sick game? Who would give away a cat to hurt both their child and their ex-spouse?
OP is three years away from legally becoming an adult. She will be counting down the days until she can move out of her dad's home and live a merry life with her beloved cat, Raven.
The recent revelation of a cat owner discovering her father's secret attempts to rehome her beloved pet underscores the intricate and often tumultuous nature of family dynamics. The betrayal of trust in such a personal matter highlights how vital open communication is within families. Without honest dialogue, misunderstandings can fester, leading to decisions that disregard the feelings and needs of loved ones. This incident serves as a poignant reminder that when family members fail to communicate openly, it can create rifts that are difficult to mend, ultimately affecting the relationships that should be built on trust and mutual respect.
Raven is not just a pet to OP, and her dad clearly knows it.
For another parent trying to steal ownership, read how OP called out her mom over “her” dog.