AITA for confronting fiancés family after he put my daughters cat outside?

by Holly

2025-03-24 06:20

Are you the a**hole for blowing up on your fiancé in front of his family for taking your daughter's cat out of the house? The original poster (OP), a 35-year-old woman, shared her experience with her fiancé, Eric, 37, moving in with her and her 13-year-old daughter, Zoey.

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Everything seemed fine until Eric started making unreasonable demands regarding Zoey's sweet and quiet cat. He imposed restrictions on the cat's movements and banned it from certain areas, causing tension in the household.

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One day, while OP was at work, Zoey called in tears because the cat was missing. After a neighbor found the cat outside and informed them that Eric had taken it out and left, OP confronted him in front of his family, leading to a heated argument.

Eric defended his actions but ultimately left to stay with a friend, cutting off communication with OP. The Reddit thread is filled with comments condemning Eric's behavior, labeling him as controlling, lacking empathy, and even abusive.

Suggestions to end the relationship, set boundaries, and prioritize the well-being of OP and her daughter dominate the responses. The consensus is clear: OP is not the a**hole in this situation.

Original Post

I f35 got engaged to my fiancé Eric m37 2 months ago. He moved in with me and my daughter Zoey f13.
Everything was going well til he started complaining about Zoey's cat which is strange because the cat is so sweet and quiet most of the time and so I had no idea what the issue was exactly. Anyways, he went from complaining about the cat to making demands about her.
He gave Zoey a list of places the cat can/can't go, things she's "allowed" to touch, banned her from places like kitchen and sofa (Zoey's favorite place to cuddle with her cat). Zoey showed me this list and I had an argument with him telling him he needed to stop this because it was ridiculous.

He ranted about this being his house too and how he expects things to change after we get married. Few days ago, I was at work and got a call from Zoey crying saying her cat wasn't in her room and in the house.
I freaked out too and went home to look for her. Zoey and I looked for 2 hrs before a neighbor of ours brought her and told us that he saw Eric leaving her outside and getting in his car and leaving.
I was surprised and quite angry. Zoey took her cat and went back inside.

I immediately drove to my future inlaws home where Eric said he'd be. The second I saw him sitting with his family I went off and blew up at him infront of everyone.
His mom asked what was happening and I told her her son got my daughter's INDOOR cat outside the house probably hoping for her to get lost. He argued about wanting me yo stop spouting nonesense and go home and we'd talk there but I refused.
It got worse and I ended up leaving after his family flipped out at him. He sent a bunch of texts talking about the stunt I pulled infront of his family.

He said that he didn't mean to leave the cat out but after checking the cams I confirmed it. He still insisted that I humiliated him infront of his family and tried to turn them against him.
He's been staying with a friend and has stopped calling and texting. AITA for blowing up on him infront of his family?
Here's some cat tax https://imgur.com/a/lOUovCh