Cat Pee Incident Sparks A Fight After A Woman Says Night School Leaves No Time For Litter Box Duty
One cat peeing in the wrong place can turn a normal day into a full argument, especially when the cleanup responsibility feels unclear. That’s where OP found herself after getting a call at work that quickly shifted from “problem solving” to “why aren’t you doing more?”
OP says her partner called to complain that one of their cats had peed on his mom’s pillow. She immediately asked the obvious question: had the litter box been cleaned? He admitted it hadn’t.
That’s when he asked for a new routine. He wanted OP to help clean the litter box at least two or three times a week. OP didn’t say no to helping, but she did say she could only realistically do it on weekends.
Her schedule is packed. On weekdays, she gets their son ready for school and drops him off by 8 a.m., then works a full 9-to-5 shift. After work, she goes straight to night school from 6 to 10 p.m. By the time she gets home, she’s drained. Saturdays and Sundays are the only days she has any breathing room at all.
Her partner didn’t take the weekend offer well. OP says he got upset, as if she was refusing to help altogether. OP feels like she’s already stretched thin and that asking her to take on weekday litter duty is unrealistic.
Now she’s wondering if she’s being unfair, or if her partner is shifting responsibility because the cat incident embarrassed him at his mom’s house.
Scroll through the screenshots below to see how a litter box question turned into a bigger argument about time, effort, and expectations.
Let’s dig into the details
Let’s dig into the details
OP’s partner got upset that she couldn’t clean out the litter box as often as he wanted. Despite her explanation, it seems he isn’t convinced that she doesn’t have the time
We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
“ Girl, why is the bar so low? Why do you even entertain this clown? Come on.”
“No, he doesn’t have a job but you are the one getting kids ready for school? Working and night school…”
“Sounds like the only thing he did was be part of bringing a son into the world.”
“NTA. It takes 2 minutes to scoop the litter box.”
“Why are you with this man? If this is how he treats her cat, this is how he’s going to treat your entire relationship.”
“He’s not taking care of the cat, so you should either go scoop the litter, take the cat with you, or re-home it.”
“NTA, but be better to yourself and your children. Ditch the third dependent adult child.”
“I'm thinking cat peeing on your pillows is weeks without scooping. Both of you need to deal with that.”
OP isn’t refusing to help; she’s drawing a boundary based on a weekday schedule that leaves almost no room to breathe.
The bigger issue is that the litter wasn’t cleaned in the first place, and OP got pulled into the blame after the consequences showed up.
If her partner wants the box cleaned 2 to 3 times a week, he can own most of that routine and take OP’s weekend help as backup.
What do you think OP should do here? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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