Relationship Faces Breakup As Lady Refuses To Travel With BF Without Her Cat
A 28-year-old woman refused to travel to Australia with her boyfriend for a year, and the reason was not complicated, at least not to her. She said she couldn’t go if she had to leave her cat behind for that long.
Her boyfriend, meanwhile, called her an AH for “choosing a cat over the relationship” and the experience, even though she was willing to make shorter compromises. The whole thing blew up because the trip was a year-long stretch, not a quick detour, and her cat was non-negotiable.
What makes it messy is that both sides think they’re being fair, and the comments section is absolutely not letting anyone off easy.
The OP writes...
If the OP can't bring her cat, then she's not going
The OP can leave her cat behind for a month but not for a whole year
The OP has so many questions and she needs answers to them
The moment OP said she’d only travel if her cat could come along, the boyfriend’s “it’s just a cat” argument started getting loud fast.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I might be the AH because I made the decision and told my boyfriend that I won’t travel to Australia with him for a year because I can’t bring my cat. He told me that I’m an AH for choosing my cat over the relationship and the experience since she’s just a cat.
Comments rolled in, in their hundreds and here are a bunch of them
It's understandable that the OP doesn't want to leave her cat
This Redditor wants to know...
OP clarified that she could leave the cat for a month, but a full year was a hard no, and that specific timeline is what made people pick sides.
It also echoes what happened when the girlfriend re-homed her boyfriend’s cat while he traveled for work, sparking a breakup-level blowup.
When OP added that she loves her boyfriend but this isn’t about him, commenters had to confront the fact that the cat is the entire deal-breaker.
The OP dropped this in the comments section...
I’m more just trying to get people to understand that i love my cat lol. That it’s not just some pet. Some people don’t value their pets as much and I’m not that person.
This post isn’t about how much I love my bf. I could go on about how much I love my bf but it’s not about that here. It’s kinda assumed that I love my bf otherwise why would I be dating him
The OP is being a reasonable pet owner
It would have been a deal breaker
The relationship might end during that period
He's not wrong for wanting to go
By the time the cat-bond angle hit the thread, even the “he’s not wrong” crowd had to admit this breakup could happen during that Australia year.
Cat parents, as well as veterinarians and animal behaviorists, are aware that the common misconception that cats are distant and uncaring toward humans is untrue. Cats do create strong bonds with their people, and these bonds give them a sense of security and comfort that allows them to play and explore their surroundings.
Some cats experience worry and distress when their human or other animals are absent. So yes, the OP isn't about to ditch her pet any time soon and no AHs were found in the story.
He might be right to want the trip, but she’s right to refuse it without her cat.
Wait, the fiancée who refused the cat “still” got termed controlling, read her reasons here.
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