Woman Wants To Know If She Will Be TA If She No Longer Takes Her Dog To Her Mom
One Reddit user is dealing with a painful mix of grief, boundaries, and a dog caught in the middle. Her mom lost Lucy, the family pet she adored, and now Dexter, the dog OP adopted from a shelter, has become the center of a new conflict.
Lucy and Dexter were close, but OP says her mom never really approved of Dexter before Lucy died. Since then, the mom has started treating him like he belongs to her, and OP is worried the situation is getting out of hand.
Now she wants to know if she would be TA for stopping the visits. Read on.
Here is what OP posted on Reddit.
She explained how she adopted Dexter, who became Lucy's best friend.
That is where the tension really starts to show.
Now, OP's mom calls Dexter "her boy" and has become possessive of him.
Emphasizing to her mom that Dexter isn't her (mom's) dog, she wants to know if she will be TA if her mom is not allowed to babysit him or take him with her whenever she visits.
The replies came in fast, and most people did not think OP was the problem.
Here are the responses she received. The mom is in denial and is trying to replace Lucy with Dexter.
Someone suggested that it is about time for the mom to get a new dog after two years of losing Lucy.
It is her mom who has crossed the boundaries repeatedly.
Her mom misses Lucy, but she can always get a new dog.
To avoid being TA, she should first have an honest conversation with her mom.
Her mom needs to be made aware of her behavior and should be warned about it.
Since it is her dog, it should be her rule.
She will not be TA, as the dog needs to be protected from her mom.
Others thought the mom was taking things too far.
This echoes the redditor accused of sadfishing after being separated from her dog.
Her dog is hers, her fur baby, and no one else can ever claim that from her. Anyone who claims Dexter as theirs is way out of line!
If the mom causes Dexter to become confused, she is not a good babysitter.
She should give her mom a dog instead as a gift.
Still the same advice: she should get her mom a new dog!
Not everyone saw it as simple, though.
The mom is hurting, and Dexter is helping her. However, she is overdoing it.
The mom is overly attached and is stepping over her daughter's boundaries.
She must stop taking Dexter to her mom's house.
She needs to talk with her mom about the issue.
The mom is being intentionally malicious.
The best solution for everyone is for them to separate.
The mom needs to get herself a new dog.
The question is: "Is it really worth making her mom cry over it?"
The overall verdict? She will not be TA!
Her mom may have been grieving over losing Lucy, but people have suggested that she can always get a new dog. Her daughter can also give her one as a gift.
That would be a win-win solution for her mom to have another companion and for Dexter to avoid becoming more confused. What about you? Would you give the same suggestion?
Dexter should not have to carry the whole family feud.
For another harsh family demand, read how a daughter got slammed after refusing to pet sit.
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