Dealing With a Demanding Cat: AITA for Setting an Ultimatum with My Wife?

AITA for giving my wife an ultimatum over our disruptive cat - to keep him or not?

James Duya

Published in Interesting
March 24, 2025

Dealing With a Demanding Cat: AITA for Setting an Ultimatum with My Wife?

Are you ready for a cat-tastrophe of a situation? Picture this: a frustrated individual seeking solace from the incessant meowing and nighttime antics of an orange feline.

The Reddit thread in question revolves around a dilemma involving a cat that seems to have mastered the art of disruption and demands. The cat in question is not just any ordinary pet; it's a relentless attention seeker who has pushed its owner to the brink of exhaustion.

From sleepless nights to endless wailing for food, this furry troublemaker has become a source of chaos in the household. As the story unfolds, the cat's owner expresses their exasperation, detailing the challenges faced with this demanding pet.

The situation escalates to a point where a difficult ultimatum is presented to the owner's spouse: either endure sleepless nights with the cat or consider parting ways with the troublesome feline. The emotional toll on the owner is palpable, leading to a heated discussion with family members caught in the crossfire of conflicting emotions and responsibilities.

Amidst the chaos, Reddit users weigh in with a flurry of judgments and suggestions, reflecting on the complexities of pet ownership, behavioral challenges, and the ethical dilemmas surrounding the well-being of both humans and animals in the household. The thread serves as a platform for diverse perspectives, ranging from empathetic solutions to tough love approaches, highlighting the complexities of navigating pet-related conflicts within a family dynamic.

Original Post

Sorry if the title makes little sense. My wife 'rescued' a cat a year ago.
He is the most frustratingly annoying creature on the planet. He screams for attention 24/7.
He does not allow us to do anything without his input. I haven't slept through once since we got him.

He wails all night, incessantly. He's cost us thousands of dollars in vet bills and behaviourists trying to figure out whats wrong and how to fix it.
Ultimately he's an orange cat and apparently they're prone to being assholes. He's healthy and has all of his needs met.
He's treated better than most cats. I am at my wits end.

He wants wet food 24/7 and he will scream all night until someone gives in and feeds him. He has kept me awake for hours.
If he's not screaming he's scratching at the wall or door. He just stands there, scraping his feet against the wall, staring into my soul.
I was a single father for the first seven years of my sons life and let me tell you working 14hr days and coming home to a colicky newborn was easier than whatever f*****g t*****e methods this cat is trained in. I want rid of the cat.

My wife knows how hard he is and doesn't think he'll be adopted and so doesn't want to give him up. At this point I do not care.
I told her she can either move into the garage with him at night and deal with him solo or we can get rid of him. But I refuse to suffer any longer because this fat orange cat can't survive an hour without a meal.
My wife is pretty upset - we took on the responsibility of a cat together, we should keep looking for solutions together, she shouldn't have to suffer solo just because she doesn't want him to end up on some euth list. I do not care.

I am exhausted. My kids think I'm evil but also refuse to do anything to help with tne cat so I'm not super keen on listening to them.
My son, upon hearing about my dilemma, asked me to post it here. I'm happy to hear any and all judgements, so why not?